Tanya and I are 30 somethings about to plunge into the world of parenthood. Our childhood experiences cast a shadow over what we anticipate and endeavour to achieve in our own parent experience.
A lot of retrospective energy is exerted in an attempt to avoid the perceived failings of our parents in producing well adjusted and happy adults. It's a common occurrence to hear friends and peers discuss their own situations and litany of wills and won'ts when it comes to child rearing. In order to learn from our childhood experience it's important to be able to reflect on observations made prior to ourselves being in the situation we are critical of.
Tanya has made conscious steps toward overcoming parts of her behaviour which she partly or wholly attributes to the parenting she received. I think my parents did a pretty good job and I recall a fairly happy childhood. I wasn't over indulged and was a fairly sensitive kid who enjoyed his own company. I have certain failings which I could attribute to my parents. I do have some trouble in communicating feelings and have been accused of being emotionally unavailable.
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